How Your Life Can Change…
The way I have seen things before, my friend Piero (not his real name) had it all. He married since 2005, they had two healthy and happy boys aged 6 and 3, and he had a good paying job. Hard worker, loved his family and his new home. Perhaps all that “new” kind of lifestyle was too much, I wish my friend Dr. Erica would be close by to support Piero.
Because there was a dark side, too, as we all know, there is always one.
He struggled with a nagging, hidden insecurity complex in his mind every day. Was he really good enough for his family? Did he really have what it took to be the best father, husband and be his best at his job?
To fight these negative thoughts, Piero often turned to inner thoughts that somehow turned to anger. And then it happen. Out of the blue the police showed up at his home, charged him with assault causing badly harm and life took a totally different turn.
Before that devastating day last December, Over time, his behavior had began to take a devastating toll on his life, his family, and his job.
His marriage and family life was cut off immediately and both sides were being torn apart. Piero only solution and decision has been t take control of his life as soon as soon to keep what he have and improve from there on.
As today, from the look at the situation, Piero have two choices. One, he could continue to follow the path he has walked so far, knowing that it would destroy his life, marriage and his relationship with his boys. Or Two, recognize the wrong doing and behavior so far and make certain all in the family seek professional counselling for the sake of keeping the young loving family together in the future.
~ Let Go and Let God. ~ May God Allow Piero to Do His Best and for certain God Will Do the Rest
What I will write from here on will take great strength on each one involved. We are praying Piero and other people in the same situation, will work things out together with his family, wife/husband or whoever it is involved and make life better, before it escalate for teh law enforcement to get involved. Using Piero “story” (I call it his sacrifice) my hope is that people who read (myself included) and who is aware of this article to use it as strong motivation to help make big changes for the better in our life as a whole.
Imagine this…as my friend Donna Merrill would say, it was two days after Christmas. For most of us, that was time for the usual fanfare after the season and somehow adjusting and prepare for next wonderful New Year celebrations.
Piero was not that lucky. He was taken to a holding cell before he was released with conditions to stay away from his wife and kids, and spending New Year, and the days that followed, between his mother home and a friend apartment.
Just now finished reading positive messages from my friends Rachel Lavern and Chery Schmidt, their messages of positiveness got me inspire to have MORE Faith and Hope in God and I love to believe that “Today”, “Piero is happy as ever and in control of his life. His marriage is strong, and his sons are the centre of his life, and he now has the time, energy and finances to keep up with the little guys that keep him busy every day. The outgoing, energetic, enthusiastic, loveable Piero that I knew back in the days, has returned”.
We have a inner sensor that never fail…
Fortunately, when faced with tough fight for our lives, we come to our senses and chose to take the right direction. And even though it may be the hardest decision we may ever have to made, it is always the best. Piero, myself and others with noble intentions know very well that we need to change for the sake of making life better for the sake of our family, our kids, our friends and the decision may not be easy but doable.
Side personal note here, as Kim Brink – Castleberry some times say: Because we put aside our embarrassment and take courage to reach OUT for help and for positive support. We are able to admit there was a problem and then we take personal responsibility. Piero done it and countless others made the same decision to change, and I believe implementing some proven pillars of transformation any one life will change for the better
What transformation changes are suggested (as best as I can share here?)
1… Social Support from loving family members
2… First, have some accountability partners, he got support from his wife and immediate family, second, he had accountability to health professionals, third, he planned and prepared his future life to live better and avoid temptations, fourth, he found an incentive (the relationships with his son and wife, and his job), and fifth, he set The Deadline for changing.
All of this took great strength but it was supported by those 5 essential elements. These are the 5 Pillars that are very well promoted to achieve success in similar situations.
Changing is not easy. True and lasting transformation never is. But it is possible and proven by many. So no matter where you are in your life struggles, use Piero as inspiration not to give up on what is important to you and your life.
There are two things that you can take action right now.
1 – If the above story hit a sensitive cord and resonated with you in any way, please leave a comment. 2 – Share with others and make the day for someone who need it.
No matter what you do, thank you in advance for that you do.
Thanks for reading the story and I hope this helps and inspires you.
_I am nickc