Reaching Out…

Do you feel like your life or business hit a plateau?

You feel down, or the numbers are down or you just stuck and don’t know how to get to the next level?

Face the truth my friend, because you are not alone and sooner or later almost everyone’s life and every kind of business you can think of, will face it, because it’s part of life and business.

Now tell me, do you remember when you started out in your teen years or adult life, or when you started out on your first business?

Do you remember that you “knew” what to do and at the same time you were failing miserably… do you remember how quickly you learned the simple philosophy that changed your life and the lives of many other people around you forever?

Hope you do remember, and if not… then, please keep reading and I will share my two cents with you here, because I know that:

YES!!!! You Reached out to Someone and ASKED FOR HELP!

It’s this correct? Reaching out is what you did? Well my friend, you where not the only one, and you will NOT be the last one either.

I know, the above seem to be some kind of an ego-check, but for sure if you did reach out for help, I’m almost 100% certain it worked, I know for certain, because once we use some practice in reaching out for support, everything become clear, easy and much more possible.

If you reached out for support or not… at this point it does not matter much, I was just getting you engaged in the conversation here… but since we are on this topic, I will share with you 3 main ways I have used often myself, and hope they will assist you along the pathway to reach your successful future faster…and by the way, just for the record,  the other day I just reached for help again, and it worked beautifully, hope by sharing more with you here, will assist you to see the light and yes, also, you will understand the importance to use the suggestions when needed.

“I asked for help and the world opened up to unlimited possibilities, and always look forward to size all the constructive fruits that will bring in from today on, in my business and my life”. nickc

Here are the 3 essential points to ask for sincere help and in the proper way (these are the one I use anyway and hope I get your permission to share them with you)

1. Find A Coach/Mentor

Once you sincerely recognize that you need help… a coach/mentor is number one priority… Everyone needs some outside push or kick in the pants from time to time, to gain some outside motivation and inspiration. Every successful business man and woman that I know personally, has a coach/mentor or had many coaches/mentors along their pathway of their successful lifestyle and business.

Learning from each other is a must and matter as well, learn from the best, correct?

Not long ago I read that Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and countless of others who have changed our lives forever in one way or another, must had a coach, a mentor… that was the main push that drove them to be the best they could be… so why not us?

A simple way to find a coach/mentor is by focusing on someone you admire now or admired in the past, someone you want to learn from, preferably in the field of your
interest or industry and then reach out and ask for help… they will be glad to support you all the way just as it happened to him/her/me and many others.

Successful people love to teach, to help others, you just have to reach out, they will never know you need help unless you ask… once you do it, you will find out that it was not as hard as you thought to be before asking!

2. Find or put together a Suitable and Supporting Mastermind Group

Being around a group of like minded people, going through the same ups and downs in life or business, and gone through similar failures and successes, is something that I consider very valuable.

To find a suitable mastermind group, start enquiring within your field of interest,
your type of business, even if is one person to start with, go ahead, buy them
a vegan/vegetarian lunch or whatever, get together and watch where it goes, soon you will have the feel if it is right for you or not.

You may feel uncomfortable if it does not work out, but chances are they are looking for ideas as you do, so it will be a win-win situation no matter what is the outcome of your first or second, third or more meetings with hopeful coaches / mentors.

Going through this process, not only give you experience and drive to do it more often, but you will achieve and gain lots of experience, you will learn about accountability and discipline because you need to report back to your peers that will be supporting you, or brighten your lifestyle, or bring your business to the top!

Another idea that come to mind is to read what Mr. Napoleon Hill talks about master mind in his famous “Think and Grow Rich” book, where he state that MasterMind is a: “Coordination of Knowledge and Effort, in a Spirit of Harmony, Between Two or More People, for the Attainment of a Definite Purpose” … now you have it, go for it, and make it happen.

3. Mentor Someone

As you will find out sooner or later, the road to success is a two way street, once you get on the arena of supporting and mentoring, it will not be long that you, yourself have become a better coach/mentor, and as you may already know, when you teach someone, actually you learn a lot more yourself and that is wonderful.

As you may be aware by now, since I mentioned a million times (yes, I am happy that I reached this age, Thanks to God), I am over 65, went through a lot in my life, some good and some not that good (as my friend Michael Shook shared earlier), and even if I am not proud of certain things that went on in my life, good and not so good, they all served me well, and made me who I am today (good or bad, this is it :-) .

Now that I am writing about this topic, I can recall the many times when I was visiting close friends or they were visiting at my home, their teens would take the opportunity to come to me and talk, share what was going on in their lives, asked questions and always, always thanked me for being their friend and be able to chat with me openly and freely without feeling judged…

I tell you that’s a wonderful feeling especially when my close friends (their parents) would come to me saying that they could not take it any longer with their teens behavior, but after taking with me, they would become more approachable… that was truly a happy feeling. I always made my friends children’s felt fine as they were and they also felt good that someone would listen.

Reach out with sincerity, and I can guarantee to you that you’ll get a lot more out of it than you can ever imagine!

We can argue that no one really know what or how it works, but what I have experienced many times already… and that is, to being of true, honest, sincere service, is a sure way to increase anyone successes by leaps and bounds.

In a spiritual way we can call it re-paying or paying past or present Karma (causes and retribution) or it may be what other have called, “Learning by Teaching”… and you may have your version, no matter what it may be, once you recognize that we sincerely need to do it, I know it is good to reach out, and soon, we can find out ourselves how good it is… that is, as soon as you go out and reach out for help / assistance / support / advice and face the truth, the truth will set you free.

We Have a Tremendous Powers… let’s use them wisely along the journey of life and let’s support others along the way…


About nick catricala

Passionate to help, support, add value and wings to our unique and exciting life journey! _nickc is author of "The Commitment of a Lifetime" as well as an avid self improvement practitioner, spiritual truth seeker and entrepreneur. _nickc lives in Ontario, Canada, and love to publish positive, uplifting content at his InnerVeritas sites and can be contacted 24/7 at: (206) 203-2170 (Tel./Fax) or by eMail:
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87 Responses to Reaching Out…

  1. William Amis says:

    Nick, great article and one that we all need to revisit. I can see clearly now and thanks to you it hit my heart.

    We all fall short of progression from time to time. That is all being a person with emotions and thoughts that are not limited. We have to learn daily and need to feed off of our imagination and those of other people.

    When you find you one true passion and share it with everyone supported by all that excitement like when a child on Christmas day. Then you will have not egos per say to not accept help and guidance from others.

    Allot of people let that pride get in their way of really making a difference in moving forward in greatness. They will not accept nor ask for help from anyone. They will read and speak of things once read and never really listen to themselves.

    Hey, Nick you are right and each one of us until we assent will need someone else each step of our journey through this amazing life. We just can not be alone and survive without interaction with others. Just be careful and do not limit yourself to expecting others to do all the work needed to accomplish each step you should be doing yourself. That is what makes allot of people give up on just about everything. They loose interest and want to find the next best things that has all the no work required attitude.

    Nick, you have achieved so much in so short of time with me in your life. I am honored to have been allowed in it. You are moving a such a rate that we all our so amazed that your words here are a real reflection of how it does work. You live your words and that is what I love about you.

    Looking good everyday Nick. Way to go with making the “Top Spot” with B3. You are the man!
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    • Thanks for teh compliments Bill,
      I am happy the article made some diffennce to hit your heart… my intention was just to express what are my feeling on the subject and from your comment, it looks like it may be more then that and I am trilled.

      Your comment made me go back and tread it again… because I truly did not think this was any more special then others… this is what I have in me and for me sharing was just a privilege and now I am happy to know itw as beneficial in some ways to some one like you.

      Thanks so much agaiun for all you have done so far to work with me and for what ever teh future holds… and BTW, making the “top spot” with B3 was just a flucke since I still do not know how to qualify.. I just do my thing and some how worked…nd yes, I am trilled for that as well… not sure if I get there again, but I am happy I did this time and that is more than what I coudl ask… the B3 group is a great group to be in, I am learning so much from every one and love it.

      Thanks again.

      • William Amis says:

        Nick, the more we get involved at other platforms with new people. The more experiences you will be exposed to daily. This can only make your unique insight shine even more on each new article you share.

        Thanks for being yourself all the time. We are inspired by you energy and renew sense of being.
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        • Bill, you are correct, I am always searching and looking for different things and with such, I end up in places that I would never have gone unless I was eager to know more or better…

          Sometime works wonders, otehrs not that great, but overall, I get the idea of what is going on and some home when I start writing, the Insights coem in abundance… I just have to watch my self not to write a book out of it haha :-)
          Thanks for yoru encouragements.

  2. Nick, thanks for the helpful suggestions. I’m committed to growing my online business without debt at this point. Perhaps others of your readers are also short on cash. One way to reach out is to offer your services versus money in exchange for coaching/mentoring. And mentoring someone else with just a little experience than ourselves is free!
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    • You are very welcome Steve,
      I am glad some of teh suggestions were helpful..

      Your commitment to grow your business with out debt, is a first for me, but i am sure you know what you are doinga nd I wish you great success… and yes, beain a coach or consultant or Mentor is simle, esy and can be done at no chanrge, actually in my experience that bring more fulfillment to my heart.

      Thanks so much for you commnet.

  3. Jupiter Jim says:


    Great article, as usual. When we need help we have all heard that we should get a coach, although most of us never will because we don’t think we have the money, or don’t need one or are too lazy to find one. We are told to find or start a MasterMind group, but once again usually never do. We have heard those things before. Great advice but seldom followed, unfortunately. It’s always important to be reminded once again. However, the advice you RARELY see anyone give to anyone in need is to “go out and mentor someone”. That I have only heard that once before in my life and it’s great advice. Most of us are so worried about who can help us with our business and our problems (it’s not bad, that’s just human nature), that we forget that we have the knowledge and ability to help other people. And that by helping and mentoring someone, you may just found out it was the Help that YOU NEEDED as well.

    Life and Karma are interesting like that.

    Thanks for sharing this great advice and post, Nick!

    ~ Jupiter Jim
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    • Hey Jim,
      first of all, thanks for reading the post and second, thanks for your well written comment.
      Yes, everything that you read is part of what I done or what I was told or what I understand or what I wanted to do or what, what, what…

      Being around for a while, thse things where part of life for me.. and as you, many times just put them on the side and nevr=er done anything about or done them and quit even before getting off.

      Perhaps that past made me who I am today… I find very easy to ask for help when I need it… I find mu=y self sharing what I know with others very easy as well, and masterminding, well, that was a biggy… but with time all come into place nicely… and now my mastermind team is always at hand and love it.

      You are doing all the above already and doing very well… and do not be hard on yourself… this is who you are so you must go ahead as it is comfortable for you.

      Of course, (here is my SMALL EGO coming out) we can aways get together and chat, and share our views on the above topics, I love to share what ever I know with you, if that is what you like to do… you just have to let me and know and we will make it happen… I truly believe you are doing a wonderful job doing what you love to do and learning from you is always beneficial because you take great care to make it easy and simple.
      Thanks again.

  4. Great post, Nick! You are so right about the importance of looking out to find others to help you out. After all, isn’t that what we are all doing in a blog syndication group? ;-) You are so right about what happens, and the dangers of trying to do everything by yourself.
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    • Steve,
      glad you found teh post beneficial and agrree with what it is written.

      Yes, this group helped me a lot already and love to share and give back as much as possible… and look forward for more people to benefit from what I have to share.
      Thanks again.

  5. Hi Nick…Over the years I have benefited from the wisdom and support of a variety of different coaches and mentors and can’t imagine life without them Similarly mastermind and support groups have served me well. And it’s always good to have a reminder. Thanks for a great post.
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    • Celeste,
      thanks so much for reading and commenting on the post.. and congratulation to you for doing all what you do that helps you succeed in life and business…
      I am certain you will continue doing it in teh future… and do not forget, to share your knowlege and passion so we all can benefit.
      Thanks again.

  6. Clint Butler says:


    This is far and away the best post I have read of yours.

    Finding a mentor was bar none the best thing I have ever done for my business. Following the teaching that one should learn from someone who has done it is key.

    There are tons of people out there claiming to be the best at something. But they don’t have results beyond teaching how to do a task. Sometimes there are fake claims made. Or stories of successes that are fictional or not theirs.

    I love learning from people who have done it. Are doing it. And are doing it successfully.
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    • Wow Clint, coming from you this is some kind of compliment… hope I can live up to it for a long, long time… it is nice feeling haha :-)

      I wanted to add something esle in this regard (mentorship or coach or just somepne to be accauntable to, but I thought it was already a lot so I emitted it…thanks to your commenta and Jim as well, now I better say a little more here… We all are mentors of some kind and at some levels, people always come to us with questions and what ever… but what we normally tend to do is show up our ego and that is what kills it most times… well, this is just a litle more, perhaps I will find a way to wrire more at a later date.

      Correct, learning from others, is always good … I have a litlesaying that I borrowed from a teacher of mine… “no matter what otehrs do or say, good or bad, we always learn something.. either to do it or to avoid it”, BTW, this is one of the reason I felt it was good to write about this topic… I went through just as you did… and got upset over and over again till I learn a little trick (actually not a trick, just I learn how to cope with thse so caled gurus of some sort:-) and that is to assess what otehrs say, with out commenting and once I know they real… then comment, otherwise I just nod and move on..

      Thanks so much for stopping by and feeding my “starving” SMALL EGO Clint… look forward to learn a lot more from you since you specialize in so many things that I am ignorant about it….

  7. Hi Nick,

    Your so right when you ask for help it really does make a difference, even though you think at the time that you may not need it or that you’ll figure it out, just asking gives you so much more in the end.

    Regards, Jessica.
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    • Jessica,
      thanks for saying great things about te post.. all come from past experience, many failures and disappointments… asking for help is always best as long as we are able to do it sincerely after putting enough effort to solve challenges by ourselves.. once that is done, thenn we may stand a better chance that asking for help would not inflate our ego and use the support against what is our best interest and otehrs.

      Thanks for sharing your comment and inspiring me to think of the benefits, a little more.

  8. Pete Chapman says:

    Hi Nick,
    Yes….. I think everyone would be wise to follow Napoleon Hill’s research. I especially appreciate your suggestion of mentoring someone.

    This has definitely helped me to progress as I find the challenge of having enough knowledge to help others helps me to focus on what is important in my own business.

    Also… blessings come to those who bless others.

    To your health and prosperity.

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    • Peter, I have read and visited a couple fo your sites, and clearly noticed that yes, you are already doing it and doing it well…

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting… and look forward to join forces in the future to make life better for ours elves and others by applying simple pri=nciples that great people like Napoleon Hil worked so hard to perfect them and then share them with all of us.

      Thanks for yoru caring blessings of great health an dprosperity.. we all need that and I thank you for my self an dfor everyone who I can touch along my pathway of life.

  9. Hi Nick, you know, I just got here after reading a comment on my blog from you, where you said you were not a teacher. And, I come here and read this wonderful article of yours, where you are teaching your readers what to do if they are “stuck”. You are a great teacher Nick and you must’ve been a great coach to your friend’s teenagers as well.

    Looking forward to reading your future teachings Nick! Regards from Julieanne
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    • Hello Julieanne,
      your comment made me re-word certain things I write.. Thanks so much Julieanne, coming from you I truly need to take action… perhaps I can say what was already said before and I did not pay attention as it deserve and that is, “I am not a teacher, I am a lifetime student inspiring to become a great teacher and do my best by sharing what I learn along the way”.

      My definition of a teacher has always been as someone like you, who see a problem and can go ahead to teach others steps to take to solve it… perhaps I need to look into it further. THANKS so much for reading and commenting on the post.

  10. Amrik Virdi says:

    superb advice. I’ve discovered that mentors are simply as crucial in our non-work lives; for instance, my own dad died last month, so I’ve looked out mentors who encourage me with their ability to age healthfully and with good grace.

    Amrik Virdi
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    • That is great to see you back Amrik, and I am glad you seen what it was written inthe post as superb advice… hope it will serve you well in every way..
      Sorry about your father passing… wish you will be able to let go and so he will move on to where he need to be, he finished what he come here for, and now he was liberated to move on… I know, he wil be in your heart and mind at all times, and that noble, but let him go it will be great for him and you.

      Best of everything.. always.

  11. Rick Lelchuk says:


    Interesting that you pose this question. Having successfully completed a major goal in my life, yes, I do feel that things have stagnated. My wife and I have been working on creating a new an meaningful goal in our lives, something to shoot for.

    We’ve just purchased Mind Movie to help with the visualization of our goal. Neat little tool.

    Reaching out is so important. We, human beings, do not do this life alone.

    Thanks for this reminder,

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    • Rick,
      congratulation on reaching a major goal and congratulation that both, you and yoru wife worked together towards it.. that is priceless…

      You are correct, we cannot live life alone… after receiving so many comments, more insights come alive and one that just come now is that ONLY GOD could accomplish huge tasks by Himself.. each of us is not God, yes we may be created in the Image of God, but we need tomassociate with others to make the Image shine :-)

      You are welcome for teh reminder, and Thanks for your comment.

  12. I’ve never known anyone that became successful without reaching out to others.

    Finding a good coach or mentor will not only put you on the right road to success, but it will get you there so much faster, and with so much less effort.

    And I certainly agree, Nick, that reaching out to help others in return is not only the right thing to do, but it will enhance your own growth to ever new heights you might not never have even considered.
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  13. Nick,
    I have certainly followed the tips you are suggesting here. I have been involved in several mastermind groups that have lasted for many years. I have worked with many different mentors, choosing those I considered to be the best for my needs at the time. I have counseled and mentored others along the way. And I love participating in a blogging tribe to read so many different blogs and perspectives, to connect and syndicate each others’ content. Reaching out to get help and to give it when you can makes all the difference.

    Thanks for a great post.


    Dr. Erica

    • Dr. Erica, knowing your work… I can just imagine all what you already done and still doing in regard to coaching, mentoring, sharing and what ever is good about being supportive… and I truly thnk you for doing such a great job and make a difference in people lives.

      What you wrote here: “I love participating in a blogging tribe to read so many different blogs and perspectives, to connect and syndicate each others’ content. Reaching out to get help and to give it when you can makes all the difference.” is 100% what I wanted to write my self, but could not find the proper words to put them togethera s you did… NOW I thank you for writiing them for yoru self and for my self as well… Doing what we are doing give me a sense of very high GRATITUDE that finally found a group, tribe, members of a blogging community who care to know what the otehr is doing and support each one as best as possible to make it better and better..

      THANKS Dr. Erica, for the great words to explain the goodness of each one who participate and to encourage others to do the same and or better…

  14. Anne Perez says:

    hi Nick

    Some great suggestions Nick regarding how to become ‘unstuck’ – the only thing I would add is to ‘get away’ take a walk in the countryside, go to the beach, take a nap. I often find my best ideas come to me when I’m out walking my dogs or when I wake up in the morning.
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  15. Hi Nick. I enjoyed this article a lot, because I discovered that I was doing all three. I have a coach, I’m a Networking Superstar, and I am mentoring a couple of people. You have made an excellent point, and I think anyone can move forward if they will reach out. Asking for help is not a weak or shameful thing to do, provided that you have done the things you know how to do yourself. Networking groups, like Networking Superstars give you a chance to bounce things off others, get help, and give help. And mentoring is a way for you to pay it forward. I appreciate your sharing your thoughts.
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    • Leslie, that is great you enjoyed and it made your day since you are doing all of what was suggested… wow, you are as superstar.. that is Wonderful as well..

      By the way, I once was told that it is ashame if someone do not ask for help when needed.. that give us a very clear clue that by asking it is teh best thing we can do.

      Great to see your lovely comment.

  16. Lydia Brown says:

    Being mentored has helped me throughout my career. I also enjoy giving back. Now and again I come across people who want to sit on your shoulder and stay there but I learned from my mentors how to set good boundaries when helping others. “Each One Teach One” has been my mantra for many years. Thanks for the post Nick
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    • Lydia,
      I am certain that you are very well aware of mentoring and coaching and asking for support.. if it was not part of what you do, then you would not reach teh level that you are now..
      Thanks for yoru comment… love “Each One Teach One”… I knew a different version, but this is more to the point…
      Thanks again.

  17. Beth Hewitt says:

    Hey Nick,

    What a great post. This has come at a great time for me. I have been doing my thing for a long time and only recently reached out to get mentorship.

    Even though I have a lot of knowledge it never harms us to get some additional support and guidance. I am also really looking forward to being more of a mentor to others. I have always helped others, but it’s time to take this to the next level,

    Thanks for sharing,

    Beth :)
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    • Beth,
      thanks so much for your comment and most fo all thanks for sharing your recent experience about mentorship and for the rest that it is very important for all of us to pay attention.. YES< we know a lot, we learn a lot, and so on….but no matter what or how much knowledge we have, UNLESS we share it, it is not great for nothing… sharing is the keay and hope we all learn from yoru example.

  18. Nick, As always, a wonderful article and one to think about. Some people just feel like they can’t reach out. It is so important that we find others to reach out to.
    When reaching out to another person, you can be surprised how happy that person is to help you.
    We are all students and teachers. When we realize this, we love to help someone else because that is how we learn too.
    Having a good coach is important. I have a few! But I find that masterminding and connecting with people I feel comfortable with on the social platforms really help me.
    Just look at Facebook. What I find is if you as a question, so many people come to help you.
    We are all in this together and that is what makes it so much fun to do.
    We connect with people around the world and start relationships with them. Since I have been on the internet I have met the best people and the kindest people on earth.
    I am so grateful for this because it couldn’t happen any other way.
    When people ask me why I like what I do, I tell them the BEST part of it all is that I make friends with people in every corner of the planet. We get to know one another, help one another and really do care.
    I am grateful for that!
    I am grateful I met you Nick!
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    • Donna, gratefull to know you as well… and hope tohgether we empower more people to follow what both of us understood… “helping otehrs is good for everyone”

      Thanks for your comment, thanks so much for all you do, for what you share, for what you believe an dmost of all for what good you continue doing in the world with all the friends that you ahve now and the one that will become friends in teh future.

  19. Excellent advice Nick! Reaching out and not being afraid to ask for help when you need it is so important. I have gotten a mentor and it has been a tremendous help in learning how to grow my business. I also have learned alot from being a part of our tribe and reading everyone’s blog posts. Thanks for the great reminders!
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    • Shelley,
      thanks so much for your comment… and for inflating my SMALL EGO to say it was “excellent”… very happy that you found interesting and you already use the simple system to just ask for support when needed. :-) Ho!!!! yes, reading all the blogs from our group is very beneficial, in the last 5-6 months that I joined, I seen so much goodness coming from the knowledge of every one…and there is so much more to learn, hope we stay together and continue to support each others and improve the world around us.

  20. Lynn Jones says:

    Hi Nick, Great post. Everybody knows there is strength in numbers and that is only one point in support of having a mastermind group and mentor. I learned so much from a mentor and a supportive team in my past. Then sharing with others what we have learned seals it in our minds/brains and also blesses others. Sometimes we may feel like we don’t know enough, but there is always someone in the world that knows less than we do. :) Sharing is caring!
    Have an awesome day!
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    • Lynn, I always say to you that for me you radiate joy and health and happiness… and your words here are just doing that :-) The words that you used to close the comment is worth millions for who can get it it “Sharing is caring!” LOVE IT..

  21. Great advice Nick! Like so many people I remember all too well the lost feeling I had when I first started blogging – and to make matters worse it felt like most ‘gurus’ offering help were really out to see how much money they could get. Thank goodness I found Chris Ferrell because there is no doubt in my mind that being a member of his blogger community shaved months off of my learning curve!
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    • Marquita,
      Thanks so much for your comment, and thanks for sharing some of your past experience… we all go through similar learning curves, some of us learn the first time around and some of us may take a whole life to learn, if they ever do. I was not as lucky as you to encounter someone in an early life to learn as much as I needed to and so it cost me a lot more but i am glad I am where I am now and enjoy the progress that come along by meeting great people like you who is ready and willing to support others just so they can move forward.
      thanks so much again.

  22. Hello Nick, stagnation is a sticky place where getting stuck is detrimental!
    Mentors can help us keep focus and keep the end in mind. By this I mean starting a project with the end in mind, what we want to achieve and then working backward maintaining the most simplest approach to facilitate reaching the end.
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    • Sadie,
      I like what you wrote “stagnation is a sticky place where getting stuck is detrimental!” i know it in different words, but it is as effective..
      Thanks for your comment.

    • Sadie,
      I like what you wrote “stagnation is a sticky place where getting stuck is detrimental!” i know it in different words, but it is as effective..
      Thanks for your great comment.

  23. Alice says:

    Hello Nick,

    Letting go of our ego and reaching out for help
    is critical.

    In business there is just so much to learn…and
    sure we can seek it our for ourselves, but at the
    expense of a lot of time and maybe a few bald spots lol.

    Great article Nick

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    • Alice,
      nice to see your comment, you are correct, if we have an inflated ego, for sure we never reach for help and as you say, it will be very expensive..
      Glad you enjoyed the post.

  24. Great blog post, Nick. As I continue to grow my business, I always return to the importance of finding a mentor or accountability partner. The best way to learn is through apprenticeship-based learn. We have the knowledge in our bones when we learn by doing.

    A good mentor helps you stay focused and on track – and the mentor benefits also, by continually revisiting and honing the concepts he or she has already mastered.

    Thank you so much for this helpful article.

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    • Angela,
      thanks for your comment… you are so right about to always have an accountability partner, call it mentor or what ever, once you have someone to be accountable to, things get done and fast… and also, the accountability partner is there to benefit a lot from the experience and that is a great Win – Win experience so why not take advance?

      Thanks again, all the best.

  25. Holly says:

    Hi Nick,

    I am heading down the right path!! I am working with a coach, I am in a mastermind group. Although at the moment I am not mentoring someone directly, I have. So It works, in my opinion. things are moving forward and the journey is fun.
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    • Holly, congratulation for taking the proper route to success… you own to your self and I am happy to know about it.. hope you stick to the formula and succeed even more. In regard to mentoring others, I am certain you already are, but some how you do not pay attention.. just stop for a second and think, who asked me a question and I answered? Well, your answer was a form of mentorship if you knew it or not, simply because you are learning all the times and when someone ask questions to you, automatically you answer what you already learned .. make sense? It may not be a so called “official mentorship” but it is a mentorship to me..
      Hope it helps you.
      thanks for your comment.

  26. Micahel says:

    When we first start out, like you are saying, Nick, nobody knows everything, sometimes we hardly know anything at all, but we learn that one of the best things to do is to follow someone’s lead.

    We follow their suggestions and their ideas until we can learn to construct our own understanding after a period of time of trying things out. it is a system that has worked marvelously for a long time. A sharing of the knowledge about something from persona to person with an extra added note of “new twist” on the idea thrown in until we get to a point where we can make our own ideas. This is an excellent post, Nick. Thank you for sharing it with us. :-)
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    • Michael,
      thanks for your comment.
      You are so right about that no one knows everything.. this remind me of a time when I used to say that I know everything and then one day my cousin got fed up (thank God) and he say to me, you are very ignorant nick, by saying that you know everything, you do two thinks that are not good for you, ONE.. your ego get inflated to the point that it does not allow you to improve,
      TWO, once you state that you know everything, you actually stopped learning and improving.

      Well, it was a shock, but after a few seconds or thinking.. I slowly say to my cousin, thanks so much, I never seen it that way, and that was the beginning of me being a lifetime student haha :-)

      Thanks once again.

  27. Great post Nick. I completely agree with the flow you’ve presented. Too often though people want to skip over #1. Or they want to monopolize the time of a mentor without paying for it. It’s really important to have a balance of having someone who is qualified as a coach assisting you… and then surrounding yourself with people who are achieving things you want to be achieving so that you can ask questions without monopolizing. Besides, it’s true what they say that we become the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. Pick these people carefully!
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    • Kim,
      thanks for your comment… glad you agree of the flow, I remember that when I was writing it was just flowing perfectly and some how I know that was the best way to present it.. Thanks again.

      Thanks for the reminding to spend time with the five most influential people in our life… I incorporated something that may be unusual for most people, but it works with me pretty good.. what I do is I talk and listen to a lot of people, but some how I can sense who I should stick around with and slowly I end up communicating more often with them… and the one who just do not click, some how they vanish.

      Thanks for making go to check what “monopolize” I did not know the meaning… now I know a little more???

      All the best.

  28. Excellent article, Nick!! All three points are very important no matter what we are doing, if we want to make serious progress. I would never be where I am today if it weren’t for my mentor. And our mastermind group is priceless! Both for keeping on track with good business practices, and for personal development. I love how the teacher always learns more than the student. That is certainly my own experience.

    Willena Flewelling
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    • Willena,
      thanks for your comment, I see that you are ahead of the game on this topic, and I am happy to know.. I can just imagine the progress that you have made by having a mentor to be accountable to and having a mastermind, well, that is super… congratulation for doing what you do so well.

      Thanks again.

  29. Sarah Arrow says:

    A great read Nick, and some powerful suggestions. I have a mastermind group and when we break up for the summer, I really miss the support and wisdom that flows around the group.

    If you cannot find a mastermind group, I suggest you go and create your own, be proactive or you will never find the help and support that you need.
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    • Sarah,
      thanks for coming to my blog post and sharing with me that it was a great read, coming from you is a higher honor.. THANKS, you made my day.

      Hope what was written made your day as well.

      Thansk for teh suggestion about creating a mastermind group my self… in a way, I have one very powerful one but I can always have two, so you are correct, creating one on my own right now would be great.
      thanks again.

  30. Nile says:

    Ego, pride… I just commented on the previous article about it and you nailed it. I often have a hard time asking others for help as I was told that if I wanted something then I had to do it myself. It was not until I was an adult that I had to learn that lesson backwards. Being a child was easy… being an adult… we all need help on something, whether personal or business.
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    • Yes Nile,
      Inoticed yoru other comment and I say that you wnet through on a similar path, well, now you wrote it and I hope it helps you more by been able to say it aloud and in public.. that is what helps me sometime, hope it works for you as well.
      Thanks again for yoru comment.

  31. Not too long ago I reached out for a mentor to help me get started with online business and he is has been very helpful. Sometimes you think you are doing all the right things in your business and it doesn’t work. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Thanks for writing this post I can totally relate to it.
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    • Melanie,
      tahnks for yoru commenta nd for sharing yoru experience… and yes, most times we believe that we are doing great and do not need any help.. but if we truly look at what we do and want to improve, there is no otehr way then reaching out..
      Thanks again.

  32. Rosemary says:

    Hi Nick,

    Many thank you for sharing this post and I found it very interesting after my week. Once a year we have a National Conference for women in business which I attended this week. One of the speaker who was very successful on the world stage stressed the point of never be afraid to ask for help . When we ask for help we learn so much and it can give us the stepping stone to move in the right direction. take care Rosemary
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    • Rosemary,
      you are welcome and thanks for your comment and thanks for sharing this precious advice from the speaker “stressed the point of never be afraid to ask for help”, this is so true.
      thanks a lot again.

  33. Hi Nick,
    Great article, I agree we all need mentors and a mastermind group is also an essential part to success. I have been running mastermind groups for the past three years and it has been instrumental in helping me progress. I think that stepping out to lead is often the greatest teacher for ourselves.

    Leadership is a lesson in humility and if we don’t step out we will not progress and become the leader we were designed to be.

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    • Clare,
      thanks for the comment and thanks for sharing such a great info… and “lesson in humility”. This is a big thing that some of us sometime cannot get over with and some how we get stuck.. An example just this morning.. last night I received a phone call that I did not appreciated and it keep me awake for most fo teh night… once I got up this morning, I pick up the phone and called to clearfy the issue and right away felt 100% better… so just to prove that stepping out, in waht ever ways, it is always better then stick to your guns and never advance.
      Thanks again.

  34. Clint Butler says:


    Masterminds and finding the right mentor has absolutely built my business to where it is today. Those guys and gals took me from internet newbie, through my blackhat marketing days (that was the evil Clint, I killed him), and down the road of learning skills like search engine marketing.

    I owe them more credit then they realize for my success. If I learned anything, it was to put your pride in the trash, and ask for help.

    • Clicnt,
      from what I learn from you so far.. I could tell that yoru mastermining and mentoring background must have been a huge factor for you to be who you are, otehrwise you would not be so willing to share what you know and support others as you do.

      AND yes, by been able to put our pride in place… and ask for help… the world can change in a second..
      Thanks for your comment.

  35. Hi Nick:

    I really liked your third point about mentoring others. This is so critical. We need someone to mentor us and we need to mentor someone else!

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    • Thanks Kevin,
      nice to be aware that you liked some points made in the post… and yes, mentoring others is very, very crutial and important… not only for people we metor… but also for our selves because some how we get more vigor to go out and do it more often.

      Thanks so much again for yoru comment.

  36. Hi Nick,

    Mentors are fantastic. They can provide great learning by example that can help you to get ahead. Also, it is important to become a leader and be a mentor.

    Thanks for sharing.
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  37. Nick,

    Your post is so helpful. I have really reached out and connected with others who can help in the past few years much more than ever before. The success is amplified and my sense of self worth and feeling good has improve tremendously. We are not in this world alone. Each of us has a piece of the puzzle but we need each other to complete our lives.


    Dr. Erica
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    • Dr. Erica,
      coming from you that this post is helpful.. mean a lot and I hope it helped everyone who had teh opportunity to read it and make good use of it.

      What you wrote is so true, “my sense of self worth and feeling good has improve tremendously”… there is no way we can accomplish much that is worthwhile unless we can manage our ego and reach out at any given mlment we feel that it is necessary… plus, from my personal experience, I noticed that sometimes I do not have to reach out at all.. I just have to lend a hand or an ear to someone who need it and right away I sense that I gained so much from the experience… for certain you have experienced similar events and probably a lot more powerful.

      Thanks so much again.

  38. William Amis says:

    Nick, I just had to come back to visit. I see that this article had a great response. You are a person living your words and that is what is so powerful.

    No one can build anything alone. We being humans require the feeling of worth. Getting involved with others on all levels is a must. You would be surprised at what you know after you share your experiences with others.

    We each have a story to share and continue the journey. How you express your adventures good one, will tell allot about the road you are on. Others who have more experience in different situations. They will support your growth and knowledge. Just ask for help is the only requirement.

    When I first hit my goal in building my business without working 9-5. I was so grateful and have still been with all the people I have travels thus far with. That is over 30 years of building lifetime relationships that are active.

    Nick, keep us on our toes and eyes open. You are truly blessed and highly favored!
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    • Hey Bill,
      nice to see you back here and AGAIN making a great and more detailed comment of how wonderful life can be by just live nobly and be humble enough to ask for help when needed. I feel honored to be working along side of someone who truly understand the deeper meaning of “living the word” and how we express out life adventures will tell alot about ourselves and who we truly are.

      As they say, it takes one to know one..
      Thanks for coming back again… thanks for teh compliments, and most of all… thanks for being who you are.

      Best of everything… always!

  39. Great advice on moving things forward in your business, Nick.

    I’m reminded, reading your suggestion to mentor others as a way to move forward, of the learning pyramid.

    This indicates that the single most effective way to learn something, is to teach it to others. That’s even more effective than learning through application. So, mentoring others is not only a good way to become successful, it is THE shortest path between points A and B.
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    • Hey David,
      thanks for the comment… and for finding the advice great… I love to use my selfs much as I possibly can because as you said ” THE shortest path between points A and B “.

      Mentoring could be so much for others and sometime we may not see it that way since we may be focusing to much on our agendas or what ever… BUT once we truly serve others through what it is known as “mentoring” we gain so much more and sometime it is evident only at a later time.

      Hope all is well with you and your family after the storm..

      Thanks again.

  40. Nile says:

    All of these points are great advice. I normally like to reach out to others when I get to a plateau point, mostly for motivation. I’ve got the tools and skills, but talking it out with a good friend always helps re-affirm and sometimes even re-adjust me. These days, Kim Castleberry and I just go have a lunch together in a local eatery and talk shop… always helps.
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    • Nile,
      thanks for yoru comment…

      It is nice that even people like you and Kim, have a need to talk things out loud so in some ways re-affirm or as you put it re-adjust you… that is something great to be aware.

      Thanks again

  41. HI Nick I noticed your post in the forum at GDI and decided to check this out Of course as you know I do know the importance of reaching out and looking for help ( Getting the much needed answers) and then sharing all I am learning with the world. You are an Awesome Leader Nick & I am so looking forward to a brighter future because of meeting you. Thanks for all your do Chery :)
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    • Chery,
      thanks so much for coming to my blog, and for your great compliments.. they are appreciated but as you are aware, I love to do what I do and support as many people I am bale too… and by loving what you do, automatically feel good and people can sense it… I look forward to continue doing a great job and soon see you doing the same and or better.

      All the best.

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